The Future's ultimate brain implant

Pranav Mistry, a grad student at MIT's Media Lab and former UX researcher for Microsoft, has developed a wearable device that "enables new interactions between the real world and the world of data." That sounds dry, but once you watch the 9-minute demo that TED.com just rolled out, which features Lab leader Pattie Maes, you'll know why Mistry's work is getting a whole lot of buzz.

Maes ends her talk with the phrase "ultimate brain implant." Take a look:

North Indian Vs South Indian girls

***************U have to think twice b4 committing to a North IndianGirl*********************

1. At the time of marriage, a north Indian girl has more boyfriends than her age

2. Before marriage, she looks almost like a bollywood heroine and after marriage you have to go around her twice to completely hug her.

3. By the time she professes her undevoted love to you, you are bankrupt because of the number of times you had to take her out to movie theatres and restaurants. And you wait longingly for her dowry.

4. The only dishes she can think of to cook is paneer butter masala,aloo sabji, aloo gobi sabji, aloo matar, aloo paneer, that after eating all those paneer and aloos you are either in the bed with chronic cholestrol or chronic gas disorder.

5. The only growth that you see later in your career is the rise in your monthly phone bill.

6. You are blinded by her love that you think that she is a blonde. Only later do you come to know that it is because of the mehandhi that she applies to cover her gray hair.

7. When you come home from office she is very busy watching "Kyonki saas bi kabi bahu thi" that you either end up eating outside or cooking yourself.

8. You are a very "ESpecial" person to her.

9. She always thought that Madrasis a state and covers the whole of south India until she met you.

10. When she says she is going to "work out" she means she is going to "walk out"

11. She has greater number of relatives than the number of people you have in your home town.

12. The only two sentences in English that she knows are "Thank you" and "How are you"

13. She thinks Govinda can dance better than Michael Jackson.



******WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE A South Indian GIRL-FRIEND***********


Her mother looks down at you because you didn't study in IIT or Madras /Anna University.

Her father starts or ends every conversation with " ... I say..."

She shudders if you use four letter words.

She has long hair, neatly oiled and braided (The Dubai based Oil Well Company will negotiate with her on a 25 year contract to extract coconut oil from her hair.)

She uses the word 'Super' as her only superlative.

Her name is another name for a Goddess or a flower.

Her first name is longer than your first name, middle name and surname combined (unless you are from Andhra)

When she mixes milk and rice you are never sure whether it is for the Dog or for herself.

For weddings, she sports a mini jasmine garden on her head and wears silk saris in the Madras heat without looking too uncomfortable while you are melting in your singlet.

She thinks Mohan Lal is the sexiest man alive.

Her favourite cricketer is Krishnamachari Srikkanth.

Her favourite food is dosa though she has tried North Indian snacks like Chats (pronounced like the slang for 'conversation')

She bursts into songs with her cousins in every movie.

She bores you by telling you which raaga each song you hear is based on.

You have to give her jewellery, though she has already got plenty of it..

Her thali (Mangal Sutra) weighs more than the championship belts worn by WWF wrestlers.

She is more educated than you.

Her father thinks she is much smarter than you...

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HAMARI CHAUPAL: To be or not to Be

HAMARI CHAUPAL: To be or not to Be


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Bring the Humanity Out - Two Choices - what would you choose?

Two Choices - what would you choose?



At a fund raising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:


'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?'


The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'


Then he told the following story:

Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.


I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'


Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.


In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.


In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again.


Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?


Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.


However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact...


The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.


The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.

As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over.



The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman.

Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates.


Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!'

Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base.


He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.


Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!'

Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.


By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball . The smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team.


He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head.


Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay'


Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third!
Shay, run to third!'


As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!'


Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team


'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.


Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

What if... from Anything in World

What if.... the person that u care the most about left you?
What if.... the person that u love the most became ur enemy?
What if.... you were to sacrifice urself for the one you love, can u do it?
What if.... you were to pick one place you would love to go, where would it be?
What if.... someone tells you that you were going to die soon, what would you do?
What if.... you see the person you love, love another?
What if.... you could give up any part of your body, which will it be?
What if.... you won a million dollar, what will you do with it?
What if.... you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would it be?
What if.... you could give up any emotions, which one would you give up?
What if.... your life is so miserable that u wish you could be anyone, who would it be?
What if.... the person you love turns out to be your enemy?
What if.... the world have to come to an end, who would spend ur last minute with?
What if.... you could choose the way you die, how will it be?
What if.... you could turn back time and redo the mistakes u did, what will it be?
What if.... the person you care most back stabbed you?
What if.... u have a time machine, where would you go?
What if.... you could change something in your life, what would it be?
What if.... you could have any super power, what would it be?
IF YOU COULD CHANGE ANYTHING IN WORLD, WHAT WOULD IT BE??


LOL.. I HAVE NTG TO DO BUT I JUST WANT TO UPDATE.. SO, IF U HAVE ANY ANSWERS TO ANY OF THE QUESTIONS ABOVE, REPLY THEM IN THE C-BOX. I WANT TO KNOW.. LOL...

Movable TV Stand - Dangerous for kids

I wanted to share a real incident with all of you.

Movable TV Stand - Dangerous for kids

My friend Suresh had a son Smarat(age: 13 months ).

He loved his son so much and always spoke about his kid whenever we met.I met him on friday along
with another friend, Madhav and had a chit chat. As usual we had a
discussion abt kids and plans for their future.
On sunday afternoon i recieved a call and shocked to hear that Mahesh's son
is expired.
I couldnt get out of shock for atleast one hour. As on friday, i scraped in
Mahesh's orkut account abt his kid's smile.
I met Mahesh two days later and was more shocked to know that his kid died
because of the TV.
Mahesh told me that his kid has started walking recently and he stood up
with the support of TV Stand. He was holding the TV stand and playing with
the TV. Mahesh went aside to take a call and suddenly he heard a loud noise.
When he ran and came back to his son, his son was lying on the floor and TV
besides him.
Mahesh understood that TV has fallen on his kid because of the moving TV
Stand. He ran to the hospital with his kid in arms bleeding badly.
Doctors said that there was an injury in the head of the kid and nothing can
be done.
Mahesh was looking at his kid but couldnt do any thing as there was no other
option but wait till his kid stops breathing.
I thought of writing this and mailing to all of you because Mahesh told me
one thing, " If only i knew that movable TV stands are dangerous for kids
then i would have never gone for it"
I just want to inform all my friends that the regular electronic gadget TV
and movable TV stand also can snatch kid's life.
Poor kids, they think of taking support of something to get up and play but
they dont know that entertainment gadgets can also take away your lives.
Please inform all your family members, relatives and friends to be careful
with the kids and observe them all the time. Be careful with the movable TV
Stands and other things which may be dangerous for kids.
If only Mahesh knew this information or if only some one told the same
information to him before, he would been careful about his kid.

"Kannada Barutha ??"

"Kannada Barutha ??"

Aaaah! I am sure most of you in Bangalore would have heard this, but what
is "kannada barutha?" here it goes. Bangalore the IT capital of India , the
silicon city and now a Metro city opened its gates to almost all kinds of
people. Very evidently the recent poll census proved that there are only
47% of original inhabitants in Bangalore/bengaluru. The life style of the
city has seen a gradual change with Pizza Corners replacing MTR's, classy
eat out's replacing "Vidyarthi Bhavans" and flashy pub's replacing all our
"Mahalakshmi wine shops".

"Change is inevitable" from the days of BEML, HAL and BHEL to INFOSYS,
WIPRO; Bangalore has a new look now on the world map. Gone are the days
where a typical Sunday for any bangalorean was a nice romantic walk on the
pavements of "LALBAGH...", "rave idli and coffee.." at the nearest yet old
looking MTR and a wonderful Annavra film either at Santosh or central
'talkies'. Today's Bangalore is deluged in traffic, stress and pressure,
Saturday nights without beer is desolate and a Sunday without a visit to
either a nearest spa or health clinic is schlocky!! The gandhibazar's are
now AC cooled super markets, majestic is now replaced by ultra modern and
diversified Brigade road, sri cauvery coffee joint is now Coffee days..

and "Bhagyalakshmi coffee adda.. is now barista. With
globalisation and more retail market the city will definitely see more
forceful changes.


Have all these changed our language? Kannada the local language of
Bangalore is supposed to be one of the most meaningful language, it also
has an unique script as compared to its other counterparts; but how many
percentage of people really use Kannada in Bangalore now? The figures are
staggering, only 37% of people speak kannada in the state's capital, for
rest it is only "Kannada barutha?"


Any normal guy starts with this sentence "Kannada barutha?" while talking
to other person, people confirm before they speak the language. You want to
ask an address in Bangalore? Or reply to a question then English is the
most preferred language other than Hindi. It's a famous fact that two
kannidagas in an IT company always talk in a neutral language!! even the
vendors and shop keepers are channeled with this new wave, the moment when
you step in any shop in Bangalore , you are always asked "Kannada barutha?"
or the entire conversation takes place in non kannada languages. People
have lost the confidence of speaking in the local language and more over
speaking Kannada on the streets of "M.G road "or "kormangala" is
substandard.


Shopping malls in the city have been completely banned from using Kannada,
not a forced one but definitely an adapted one. One has to confirm that the
other person knows the language before he starts using any language. "ondu
glass beer" is a insult when it comes to any decorous pub in Bangalore.
"Swalpa menu card kodthira..??" has been replaced by "Can I have the menu
card please...?"


Just to hit some facts, marathi is still the largest and common speaking
language in mumbai even though mumbai has the highest no of inhabitants.
Telugu is a practised ritual in yet another IT HUB Hyderabad. When it comes
to tamil nadu, beware you can be alive either if you are a fan of
rajnikanth or you know tamil. Malyalam runs in the blood of every mallu be
it Kuwait , dubai or any hospital; but when it comes to kannada it is
always "kannada barutha?" and next is "namaskara."


I am neither a Kannada activist nor do I run any Kannada supporting
organization, I am just a plebeian who just love the language.
Globalisation is the trend and modernisation is the mantra but at the cost
the language? Sounds no logic.. Is speaking kannada down market? The answer
has to be found within oneself. Next time when you hear "kannada barutha?"
you just remember that "kannada runs in your blood.." :)

The Empty Jar And two Cups of cappuccino

When things in your life seem, Almost too much to handle, When 24 Hours in a day is not enough, Remember the story of the empty jar and 2 cups of cappuccino.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students, If the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.

He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.
He then asked The students again If the jar was full..
They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full.
The students responded with an unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced Two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents Into the jar, effectively Filling the Empty space between the sand.
The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor, As the laughter subsided,
'I want you to recognize that This jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things - God, family, children, health, friends, and favorite passions – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter Like your job, house, and car.
The sand is everything else -- The small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' He continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So...

Pay attention to the things That are critical to your happiness.
Play With your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time
To clean the house and fix the disposal.

'Take care of the golf balls first -- The things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled.
'I'm glad you asked'.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a cup of coffee with a friend.'

A Smart and Effective Communication

You can implement this in your professional life for sure. This is an example of Effective Communication

Jerry and Mac are walking from a religious service. Jerry wonders whether it would be all right to smoke while praying.

Mac replies, "Why don't you ask the Priest?"

So Jerry goes up to the Priest and asks, "Priest, may I smoke while I pray?"

But the Priest says, "No, my son, you may not. That's utter disrespect to our religion."

Jerry goes back to his friend and tells him what the good Priest told him. Mac says, "I'm not surprised. You asked the wrong question. Let me try."

And so Mac goes up to the Priest and asks, "Priest, may I pray while I smoke?"

To which the Priest eagerly replies, "By all means, my son. By all means."

Moral: The reply you get depends on the question you ask.

For Example: Can I work on this project while I'm on vacation?

What is recession?

What is recession?

This Story is about a man who once upon a time was selling "Wada-Pav" by the roadside.He was illiterate, so he never read newspapers.He was hard of hearing, so he never listened to the radio.His eyes were weak, so he never
watched television enthusiastically, he sold lots of "Wada-pavs".He was smart enough to offer some attractive schemes to increase his sales.His sales and profit went up..He ordered more a more raw material and buns and use to sell more. He recruited few more supporting staff to serve more
customers started offering home deliveries. Eventually he got himself a bigger and better stove.

As his business was growing, the son, who had recently graduated from College, joined his father. Then something strange happened son asked, "Dad,aren't you aware of the great recession that is coming our way?"The father replied, "No, but tell me about it." The son said, "The international
situation is terrible domestic situation is even worse. We should be prepared for the coming bad times."The man thought that since his son had been to college, read the papers, listened to the radio and watched TV, he ought to know and his advice should not be taken lightly. So the next day onwards, the father cut down his raw material order and buns, took down the colorful sign board, removed all the special schemes he was offering to the customers and was no longer as enthusiastic reduced his staff strength by giving layoffs. Very soon, fewer and fewer people bothered to stop at his "Wada-Pav" stand. And his sales started coming down rapidly, so as the profits.The father said to his son, "Son, you were right"."We are in the
middle of a recession and crisis. I am glad you warned me ahead of time."
Moral of The Story:
It's all in your MIND! And we actually FUEL this
recession much more than we think we do!!!!!!!!!!!!

Murder of English language

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It's murder of English language. But Too Funny.

Just Read It.

The Leave Applications






• Infosys, Bangalore : An employee applied for leave as follows:





"Since I have to go to my village to sell my land along with my wife, please sanction me one-week leave.."
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• This is from Oracle Bangalore: >From an employee who was performing the "mundan" ceremony of his 10 year old son:



"as I want to shave my son's head, please leave me for two days.."
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Another gem from CDAC.. Leave-letter from an employee who was performing his daughter's wedding:
"as I am marrying my daughter, please grant a week's leave..."

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From H.A.L. Administration Dept:
"As my mother-in-law has expired and I am only one responsible for it, please grant me 10 days leave."

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Another employee applied for half day leave as follows:
"Since I've to go to the cremation ground at 10 o-clock and I may not return, please grant me half day casual leave"

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An incident of a leave letter:
"I am suffering from fever, please declare one-day holiday.."

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A leave letter to the headmaster:
"As I am studying in this school I am suffering from headache. I request you to leave me today"

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Another leave letter written to the headmaster:
"As my headache is paining, please grant me leave for the day."

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Covering note:
"I am enclosed herewith..."

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Another one:
"Dear Sir: with reference to the above, please refer to my below..."

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Actual letter written for application of leave:
"My wife is suffering from sickness and as I am her only husband at home I may be granted leave".

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Letter writing:-
"I am well here and hope you are also in the same well."

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A candidate's job application:
"This has reference to your advertisement calling for a ' Typist and an Accountant - Male or Female'.... As I am both(!! )for the past several years and I can handle both with good experience, I am applying for the post.

PROPOSAL BY A MALAYALI VILLAGE GUY

Madam:
I am an olden young uncle living only with myself in Thiruvananthapuram. Having seen your advertisement for marriage purposes, I decided to press myself on you and hope you will take me nicely.

I am a soiled son from inside Kerala. I am nice and big, six foot tall and six inches long. My body is filled with hardness, as because I am working hardly. I am playing hardly also. Especially I like cricket and I am a good batter and I am fast baller. Whenever I come running in for balling, other batters start running. Everybody is scared of my rapid balls that bounce a lot.

I am very nice man. I am always laughing loudly at everyone. I am a jolly gay . Especially ladies, they are saying I am nice and soft. I am always giving respect to the ladies. I am always allowing ladies to get on top.That is how nice I am.

I am not having any bad habits. I am not drinking and I am not sucking tobacco or anything else. Every morning I am going to the gym and I am pumping like anything. Daily I am pumping and pumping. If you want you can come and see how much I am pumping the dumb belles in the gym.

I am having a lot of money in my pants and my pants is always open for you. I am such a nice man, but still I am living with myself only. What to do? So I am taking things into my own hands everyday. That is why I am pressing myself on you, so that you will come in my house and take my things into your hand. If you are marrying me madam, I am telling you, I will be loving you very hard every day. In fact, I will stop pumping dumb belles in the gym.

Expecting soon, Yours and only yours Kutty

Mindset - Worth reading

10 Deadly SiGns of Negative Thinking

Really! The way to over come negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. - Dalai Lama

Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their -ve thinking habits and replace them with good positive ones.

Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You'll notice a huge difference in everything you do.

Let's take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the world for me.
10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking – Effort to make it positive!


1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).

Problem: If you think you can't be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you'll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied we want more.

Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn't have to be some state that we want to get to eventually it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.

2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).

Problem: We'll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.

3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.

Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful in different ways.

Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn't even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.

4. I am a miserable failure I can't seem to do anything right.

Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you've accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It's an incredibly positive feeling.

5. I'm going to beat so-and-so no matter what I'm better than him. And there's no way I'll help him succeed he might beat me.

Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can't also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.

6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don't let it hold you back. Don't dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.

7. You can't do anything right! Why can't you be like ____ ?

Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we'd be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.

8. Your work sucks. It's super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.

Problem: I've actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let's look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It's also not a good way to make friends.

Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That's a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back

Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences for both of you.

Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don't let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them and make you feel better about yourself in the process.

10. I don't think I can do this I don't have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.

Problem: If you don't think you can do something, you probably won't. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for “some other time”, you'll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don't need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

Captain Cool - MS Dhoni for INDIA at T20 World Cup 2009 disaster

India’s ouster from the Twenty20 World Cup in England shows that 20 winks is all it takes for a defending champion to be validating return tickets. Since there is no place for logic, form, strategy, etc, in this version of the game, any post-mortem is not only illogical but pointless.

Nevertheless, all the world loves a champion and all the attention (and anger) will now be focussed on Mahendra Singh Dhoni whose face is used by advertising geniuses to sell bikes, cars, ceiling fans, chyawanprash, hair oil, phones, shoes, soft drinks, newspapers and nuclear plants built under the Indo-US deal. (OK, not the last one.)

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